I see this happen all the time. You make a goal like “Lose 10 pounds in 12 weeks” and as soon as you make that goal one of two things happen.
1: You feel excited and you get all “hardcore” and use your willpower to press forward.
2: You suddenly feel the heavy burden of your goal accompanied with the fear of failing… again. Your goal is now making you stressed out.
No matter which of the two camps you fall into when you make your goal, the end results is typically the same… your anxiety to reach your goal rises the closer the deadline comes and when that deadline comes and goes and you have not met your target you feel like a failure.
—A Better Way—
Instead of focusing your energy on the end result which may or may not come, focus your efforts on creating a system or process that you will do every day or week. This way you will win every time and feel great about it. Create a process you can confidently do and build on it.
For example instead of saying “I will lose 10 pounds in 12 weeks” start your process with what you can confidently do.
“I will workout 3 x week” then when that process becomes a habit build in another process “Drink zero calories”. Each time you create a process that you can confidently do you will be creating the type of system that you can do for life, little willpower required.
Will you lose 10 pounds in 12 weeks? Maybe, maybe not, it depends on how many processes you are comfortable with doing at one time. (You will go at your own pace). One thing is certain, the results you do get will continue to be a by-product of your process and those results will last a lifetime. I don’t know about you, but I love the idea of creating a system that works for the rest of my life, not just a few short weeks.
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